so when I first

heard of

the male and female gazes

I was pretty confused

as I didn't like men and women

had this like

biological difference

in the way that we

blink

why do I look so shiny

that ain't highlighter

that's why

but when I did more research into

the male and female gaze

literally everything in my life

just

made sense

I finally found out why

I was so obssessed with

looking attractive to men

but I also found out why

I always felt ugly

when they did not look at me

and I also found out why

I actually

feel a little bit more beautiful

in the context of

when a woman looks at me

and if you've been on Tiktok

at all

chances are you've come across

these terms

I run into this trend all the time

whether it is

actual discussion of the male and female gazes

or just it kind of

remolded into

I was written by a man

or I'm a man who was written by a woman

and the conversations surrounding these two topics

are bigger than ever

and if some of you guys

are looking at me like

I have no idea what you're talking about

don't worry

I got you covered

basically you know that one scene

in transformers where

megan fox is fixing a car

she's like sweating

has this perfect body

the camera pans up and down

and is filmed in the perspective of the main character

that's played by

that is the male gaze

usually in many

male dominated movies

we see this shot

the shot of the female interests

body being dismembered

and shot up close for the pleasure

of the male audience

this results in

women in the real world

feeling the need to be sexy 24/7

and at the same time

failing to do so

there is however

a counterpart to this

which is

the female gaze

however this is a bit harder to define

many people think

the female gaze is just

the opposite of the male gaze

so instead of the disembodying female body parts

it's just male body parts being dismembered

for the female pleasure

a good example of this would be

but the female gaze is a lot more complicated than that

a female gaze pressures women

to perform feminity 24/7 as well

and although

many of you

clicked on this video

to hear me talk about how

only the male gaze is toxic

I'm sorry to inform you but

both are problematic

this is gonna be

another

long video

so grab some tea

grab a blanket

or turn on your AC

because it is

the end of day's type of hot out here

like this is not normal

you know I got octavian here with me

but you'all know the drill

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when it comes to writing

the male protagonist

is often

strong and confident, capable

and then

the female in the story

is kind of there to just

be there

female characters

are often there

to be the object of desire

by the love interest

but they're also there

to be the object of desire

for the audience

in filming

the male gaze is basically

the perspective of the camera

it lingers over the female body

in ways meant to

titilate the eyeballs of the men watching

the camera

basically films

the woman in disembodied parts

which dehumanizes her

if that doesn't sound familiar quite yet

let me give you some examples

some examples of the male gazes include

women wearing tight inappropriate clothing

while

male counterparts

are appropriately dressed

for the occasion

framing women

so that their cleavage

is always in frame

and finally

using the female body as a prop

and there are a lot of movies that do this

such as

like they all fall under the trope of

ugly funny guy

has very suspicously hot wife

and the male gaze isn't only in movies

it's also

extremely embedded into

video games

gaming mechanics make it so that

she's always in front of you

so you can see her butt

what does catwoman spot

have to do with

batman's dead parents

you know what i mean

the male gaze

is also

really big

in music videos

I don't even think

I have to

dig too deep into like

this category of male gaze

because

anyone who's seen

a male rapper music video

y'all know exactly

what I'm talking about

very often

in music videos

women are hyper-sexualized

they're meant to show off his

alpha male status

as well as

his wealth

women are used as well as props

in these music videos

the only man you'd ever catch me being a prop for

is my man's kvin