chapter 11 2nd part
breakdown of established patterns and rules
Creating a comfortable personal environment that interests values experiences, interest and tastes
ex: bothe=us; moving into a new place
Growth in Committed Relationships
- individuality: having your own needs
- Invitational comm.: Introducing yourself (hi how are you?)
- Explorational comm: learn about the other person
- Intensifying comm: spend time with the person "what do you have in common?
- Revising comm: look at a relationship in a realistic way; problems, issues,
continuation of Growth in Committed relationships:
6) Intimate bonding
Social Support Processes:
tells others about problems because the couple lacks the ability to restore intimacy.
Grave Dressing Processes
individually try to make sense of the relationship- what it meant, why it failed, and how it affected us
we seek relationships with others who closely match our own values, attitudes, social background and physical attractiveness.
moving ahead to a future without the other.
we are happier when there is fairness.Lack of parity of each partner’s contributions, cost=benefits.
Guidelines for Communication in Romantic Relationships
Engage in dual perspective
•Be able to talk about sex
•Manage conflict constructively
•Adapt communication to maintain long-distance relationships
•Ensure Equity in Relationships